When I look on the website I can’t really understand the
posts because they are jumbled and unintelligible. So I am going to talk about some of the
challenges which friendships can experience.
There can be internal tensions which can put pressure on friendship. Friendships can be strained when people have
different needs. In order to understand
what each person needs they need to talk.
They need to be open to their friends needs and understand what they
want. Friendships may also be strained because
of diverse cultural backgrounds. Each
person is influenced by their culture which affects the way they communicate. These differences in culture may affect friendships. Sexual attraction can also strain a friendship. Tension over sexual attraction can be present
in a friendship. Friendships also changes
as we grow older. Throughout the major
transitions in our lives we lose and gain friends. Distance can also put a strain on
friendships. It takes more commitment to
stay friends when people are separated by a long distance.
I totally agree with your post this week Bee Westlake. I also visited the website and found it to be really confusing. I also agree with what you’re saying about friendships. I have two friends that are really close to be but they aren’t so close with each other. It is hard sometimes to figure out what they both need. We do have to talk a lot so that I can figure that out. It is true that it takes more commitment to stay friends when you are apart. My best friend is six hours away from me in college. We are both changing but we talk almost everyday. We are both meeting new people, but we know we will always be best friends because no one knows us like each other.
ReplyDeleteGood job on your post Bess Westlake! I totally agree with you that sexual attraction or romantic feelings in friendship can hamper normal friendships. I remember an example for this situation from my college days. We were a group of 4 boys and 3 girls when we were in college. We were so used to each other’s company that we would always hang out on campus together. One of the boys in our group developed romantic feelings for a girl in our group and the dynamics of our group completely changed. The group split as a whole because the girl stopped coming with us because she did not like the boy who proposed her. The boy got angry and tried bullying my girl friend and me in the group for supporting the girl. And the other boys could not understand what’s going on so they left they left the group. So romantic feelings mixed with platonic friendships can complicate relationships unless the feelings are mutual.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with your post. I, too, had a bit of a problem while being on the advice forum, but I just had to look deeper in order to find what where some of the problems they were discussing. I agree with you when you say that, “friendships can be strained when people have different needs.” If two people do not have the same needs or even interest, then their relationship will not go so well. I say this from experience, because I once had a friend that would get upset if I did not go do something she wanted to do. We had different interest and found different things entertaining.
ReplyDeleteIt was a little hard to find the posts on the advice forum of the website. The things that I found are exactly what you say people go through in a friendship. There were a lot of people talking about how they did not have a close relationship with their friends because they are at different stages in their life and have different needs. I agree with you that this definitely does put a strain on a friendship. Many people also said that they were beginning to lose their best friend because one of them was moving away to college. I would say that distance and different needs are probably the two biggest factors in fading friendships.
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