One
concept from the reading I thought was interesting was the affirm and assert
yourself. I found it interesting that
the interpersonal communication principles don’t just apply to other people they
also apply to yourself. I think for me
this is the biggest hurdle I need to overcome.
I have troubles communicating with others because I don’t like to assert
my feelings and thoughts because I am always worried about what the other
person is going to think. I also feel
the need to always please others and not upset them by saying something. This issue with thinking about what others
think about me is exhausting. However,
this is the main problem in my life which is holding me back. I need to be able to express my feelings and
voice my opinions more so that others can confirm me. When others know what I
am feeling and thinking they are able to confirm my feelings.
Hi Bee Westlake! How are you doing? I read your post and I feel it is good that you brought this point of what others might think on what I said, because I have something to share with you on this. It is interesting that when I was naïve, and immature I would say whatever came to my mind without thinking of what others might think about it. The fact that I said something absolutely stupid did not bother me ever. However the more I matured, I started thinking of others and that kind of succumbed me being myself because I am always engaged in thinking what did I say. I am occupied with who thinks what about me and what if I hurt others. What helped me the most to overcome this issue is one of my teacher’s advice. She told me do not waste time in thinking about others and their views on what you said because they will anyways do it even if you are always right. Instead just be yourself and be reasonable. If you do the job of thinking for everyone then that is exhausting yourself. Hope this helps!
ReplyDeleteHiiiii Bee Westlake! I always enjoy reading your post because me and you seem and tend to have the same opinion towards most things. haha. It's good that these chapters are understanding how you communicate and listen. It's okay that you don't like to assert your feelings but as time passes you will probably be able to do it easily. People always tend to judge everyone but we all just have to live past it and do what makes us happy. Always express your voice and feelings instead of keeping it bottled up because it will make you feel good. You always want to be open but super open where you hurt peoples' feelings unless you guys are close friends because then you don't want to have problems ahhaha.
ReplyDeleteMany times we get caught out in the act of charity, not putting to focus that our well being is as important as those we cater for. Reading through your blog, you made mention of you saying it was hard for you to assert your feeling, that was one of my weakness before I came to realize that before I can make one believe in himself and have self satisfaction, I need to be able to do that for myself, by affirming my feelings and that helps a lot, because I could be in a better state of mind to assert others.
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ReplyDeleteI feel that way too. I a lot of times I just bottle up and hold everything inside and not say anything at all. There are times where I already know what is going to happen if a person does something but I don't verbally warn them or say anything because what I am going to say really isn't going to gain me any points and they might end up hating me for saying such negative things. There are times where I wonder, if I were to actually break out my bubble and tell them what is going to happen if they did such and such thing; will they thank me or hate me for bursting their confidence bubble. Maybe if were best buds or husband and wife then they wouldn't take such high offense. I'm not too sure... all I know is if I listen to the rule "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" applied heavily throughout my life and I'm not too sure if I should continue following it until I get much older or if I should follow a new rule.