I found the guidelines for interpersonal competence
interesting. There were five points
which were develop a range of skills, adapt communication appropriately, engage
in dual perspective, monitor your communication and commit to effective and
ethical communication. The one that I
found the most interesting was the monitoring ability. Most of us already monitor our communication
by regulating what we say to other people.
I find that I do this a lot when I am talking to people because I go
over what I want to say in my head many times before I actually say it. Now that we have online communication I can
easily monitor what I want to say by writing, deleting and adding. When I am text messaging others I find that I
spend a lot of time on one message because I type and then think of something
else to say so I delete and add. I feel
that I am constantly monitoring what I say because I don’t want to offend or
hurt anybody.
You are right! Communication competence involves learning to attend to feedback from others and to monitor the impact of our communication as we interact with them. When we are online we definitely have chance to think and write appropriately. Furthermore we can edit and rewrite over and over before hitting the send button. But when it comes to free will communication in an informal setup with friends or family, I kind of get carried away most of the times. I speak limitless, which makes me realize later that what I spoke was not needed. I try to remember what I spoke and decide not to make the same mistake again. It is great to know that you are conscious when speaking with others, but sometimes we make mistakes, so in such cases monitoring is helpful in mending ways of interpersonal communication.
ReplyDeleteI agree on what you posted and highlighted on “Monitoring Communication”. Communication is one of the basic tools that govern our society. What we say at every moment in life is very crucial and important as water is important to us when we are thirsty. One of the most important skills in monitoring communication is to be able to learn the audience at which we are sending our messages via words to. What do I mean by that is, the way you convey a message to a close friend should be totally different from the way you might want to pass across a message to a church audience.
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